Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs, and some days can be particularly challenging. As a mother to three boys, somedays I feel more like an army sergeant than a nurturing care giver. Keeping my sometimes wild boys safe often means I have to say ‘No’ and ‘Stop’ more times than I can count in an hour. We’ve all experienced those moments when it feels like our words go unheard, and the weight of responsibility becomes overwhelming. Sometimes you get to the end of the day with kids and you feel rubbish about yourself as parent because you have been so busy juggling all the responsibilities that you didn’t manage to schedule in any time to have fun with the kids. However, bedtime is honestly the perfect opportunity to reconnect with our children, heal any emotional wounds, and set the stage for a fresh start. Here are ten heartfelt things you can say to your kids before bed to rebuild connections, strengthen bonds, and build a positive atmosphere for the next day.
1. Nothing could change how much I love you
Reassure your child that your love for them is unwavering and unconditional. Let them know that, regardless of any ups and downs, your love is a constant and not conditional on their behaviour.
2. You can always tell or ask me anything
Encourage open communication by reminding your child that they can come to you with any question, concern, or topic they wish to discuss. Create a safe space where they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.
3. I love you just because you’re you
Emphasize that your love is not dependent on their achievements or behaviour. Let them know that they are valued and cherished simply for being themselves.
4. I never expect you to be perfect
Release the pressure of perfection by expressing that you don’t have unrealistic expectations. Assure them that making mistakes is a natural part of growing up and that adults can make mistakes too. This reminds them that you will always be there to support and guide them.
5. I’m sorry for…
Take responsibility for your own actions and apologize if you made a mistake during the day. This teaches your child the importance of owning up to their own mistakes and apologizing when necessary.
6. Your hugs make my heart happy
Acknowledge the power of physical affection. Let your child know that their hugs and affectionate gestures bring you joy and strengthen your bond.
7. I love it when you share your ideas with me
Encourage their creativity and unique perspectives by expressing your appreciation for their ideas. Create an open dialogue where their thoughts are valued and respected – even if it’s a knock knock joke being told backwards!
8. I noticed your kindness today when…
Highlight and appreciate their kind actions or gestures from the day. This reinforces positive behavior and cultivates a sense of empathy and compassion.
9. You’re such an important part of our family
Remind them of their significance within the family unit. I feel this one is particularly pertinent in busy households like ours. Reinforce their sense of belonging and let them know that they contribute to the love and fun in your home. There is no one in the family or world quite like them!
10. Tomorrow is a brand new day, and I can’t wait to spend it with you
Building optimism and excitement for the future by expressing your anticipation for the next day. Emphasize that each day is an opportunity for growth, love, and new experiences together.
Parenting is a journey of constant learning and growth, and some days can be particularly challenging. That said, bedtime routine provides a precious chance to rebuild connections, nurture love, and lay the foundation for a fresh start the next day. Some of these sentiments and phrases can really strengthen the bond with your children, foster open communication, and create a positive atmosphere at home. Remember, we all have tough days, but all we can do is try our best. With love, patience, and heartfelt communication, we can reset and start again tomorrow.
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